YOUR Questions Answered: Pregnancies/More Children

I figured I needed to break these up since I got quite I few questions! Thanks for all the responded and I hope I don't bore you with the answers!

First, Pregnancy
Second, Motherhood
Third, About The Girls
Fourth, About Tim and I
Fifth, anything else anyone wants to ask..

If there are more questions you have after reading my answers, feel free to keep asking, and I'll  keep posting answers! 

So, here goes:

{ I'm not going to say who each and every person was who asked each question. }

{ How did your pregnancies differ? }

My pregnancy with the triplets versus my pregnancy with Emily, it was honestly, night and day. I was sick with the girls, yes, but never, ever as sick as I was with Emily. I was SOOO SICK with her for the first 14 weeks and at 14w1d, it was like I woke up a different person. With the girls, I was on bed rest so early on, which was so hard. I had terrible pre-eccalmpsia at the end of my pregnancy with the triplets and that was so hard. I swelled up to the size of an elephant. I had a terbutaline pump in my leg from week 27 on, which was just oh so lovely. I had gall stones. I had to monitor my contraction twice a day and send the info to a nurse. I was constantly uncomfortable, but no matter what I would have done whatever it took to keep my babies in for as long as I could. And even though I have days where I think I could have done more, I know in all honesty I couldn't have done anything more. The births were completely different. Traumatic versus super normal and easy. 32w2d versus 39w6d. THREE babies versus ONE! I could go on for hours. Honestly, just read the tab titled, "Our Triplets" and you can read week by week how my pregnancy changed so fast. I look back at those posts, honestly, and I struggle to remember who I was then. I wasn't a mom yet. My babies were in my belly and I thought I knew the love I would have for them , but I couldn't have imagined what my life would be like after they were born.

The biggest differences, for me, were the feelings I had when I became pregnant. With the girls, disbelief that IVF had actually worked (we didn't know how quite how well at that point yet), excitement  thankfulness, love, and just an unbelievable feeling of I AM FINALLY PREGNANT AND GOING TO BE A MOM! I wanted to shout it from the roof tops and tell everyone. I wanted everyone to know. I was so happy. When I got pregnant with Emily, I sat in a different state of disbelief. I had so many emotions over the first few weeks. I kept it all a secret, only to share with my husband. I finally talked about it but it was hard. Hard to accept this was God's plan. Why? How? Right now? I couldn't think. I couldn't breath. I knew people would judge me. Would they think I am a bad mom because I was having another baby so close? People would think we were insane! But after awhile I didn't care what people thought, and now...I couldn't imagine life without our little Ems! God gave us her for a reason. I talked a lot about it all in this post...plus that post pretty much sums up how my pregnancies/births/postpartum were different.

{ How much weight did you gain with each pregnancy? }

With the triplets - 85lbs! Ekkk...I was OVER 200lbs on the day I gave birth! That is SCARY and I will NEVER see that number again on my scale...EVERRRR!

With Emily - I think it was like 35lbs, at the most. Honestly, I don't remember, but it wasn't more than 40lbs.

I was very lucky to loose it all pretty much right away, with doing nothing but running after the girls. The stretchmarks and extra skin, however, well that's a different story! I am constantly learning how to manage my feelings with how different my stomach looks, and although my sweet hubby assures me how it's prefect in so many ways, I hate it. I always had a prefect looking tummy, and now it's far from perfect, but I wouldn't trade  what my tummy looks like for anything because it means I have my girls. It's just a part of me now...and I live with it.

{ Are you still having issues with Endometriosis? }

Luckily, NO! Nothing at all, since getting pregnant with the triplets. And apparently it was NOT interfering with getting pregnant after I had the triplets, considering Emily was conceived so easily! I will say that my first few "times of the month" were very painful and extremely heavy after having Emily. I never had the chance to experience that after the triplets were born because I was breastfeeding and then got pregnant so soon, so maybe that was just my body, after not having a period for almost two years. I hope that was just it and not any endo. I don't think I will have any problems with it in the future, and I hope that's the case!

{ Do you think you will ever try again for a boy? / Do you think about having more children? }

Most likely we will try for another. Who knows. Maybe. Maybe not. We go back and forth. Honestly I can see us living the rest of our lives with our four girls just fine, but I also can never picture my life without another pregnancy and giving birth again. That makes me sad for sure. Tim will say "let's have another", "why not have another", "how could we not have another", "who wouldn't want another beautiful baby", "I'll have ten more babies with you", ect, ect, ect...he drives me nuts! So who knows, maybe we will just see how it goes and if it happens, it happens...and let God ultimately decide. I would love the girls to be like 4 and then maybe try so that they could have the memories of having a sibling, since the triplets never will remember mommy pregnant with Emily, or meeting Emily, or having a new baby sister..that kinda makes my heart sad for them. And would I care if it was another girl...NOT at all. I would be a little scared if it is was a boy because I would really have to start over, and he would have 4 older sisters (God help him), but then again, a little boy makes my heart smile big!!!! I think Tim would love to just have girls, honestly. He loves his little girls to the end of the earth and it doesn't bother him for a second that he doesn't have a boy (another question we get asked all the time!). 

Everyone always just assumes we don't want more children, or would be shocked if we decided to have more, but as Tim and I have talked in length numerous times about it, it is no one's business but our own as to how many children we should have. Every baby is a miracle. Every baby is a blessing. That is my belief. We will grow our family as to as many as God see's fit and each of them will be meant to be. We shall see, It's in God's hands, and we are fine with that. :)